Soulmates and True Love: Kara Weighs In

I get this question a lot.  A whole lot.  People ask me about love, whether they will find their soulmate, how long it will take, ask me to describe “the one”, etc.  Heck, when I was a client, I also asked about my own soulmate. 

In my observations, research and experience, I have come to understand soulmates as being not just one person, but a group of people who come into your life to teach you a certain lesson or group of lessons.  Doesn’t help, much does it?

In my life, I have discovered several types of soulmates that have come into my life.

Family soulmate: these are people who usually reincarnate with you to be a member of your family.  In one life, they may have been your mother and now they are your son (souls don’t have a sex).  You may feel more attracted to this person than other members of your family, because you know them on a deeper level than other relatives.

Romantic soulmate: in my personal belief, there is perhaps only one of these.  The romantic soulmate really shares the same soul as you do.  This is the person you were meant to be with over the long term.

Mirror soulmate: I can’t say how common these soulmates are, but they are brought into our lives to show us everything we are not and to learn from that.  There is one case that comes to mind where there were two people who were in each other’s lives but were completely the opposite of each other.  One was college educated, the other dropped out.  One was fairly successful in their work, the other couldn’t find a job.  One was well-travelled, the other never wanted to leave home.  It was not coincidence or an unlucky draw of the cards that brought them together.  There was a purpose.

The Teacher Soulmate: The teacher can come into our lives at any moment and they are there to teach us a very important lesson.  Not every teacher soulmate is going to come with kindness.  Some teachers, in their human form, can be quite hurtful, but it is up to us to recognize the lesson in their words and actions. 

There was a man I once thought I truly cared for who didn’t reciprocate…as a matter of fact, he was a down right mean person.  After this messed up relationship (or whatever the arrangement was) had ended, I suddenly began to realize my self-worth and vowed that I would never again let another person treat me the way he did.  These days, I reflect on that situation and realize that he was a teacher soulmate who taught me what I needed, wanted and deserved in a man and how to recognize and handle myself around my real soulmate. 

New soulmates: The people with whom you are sharing an earthly lifetime with for the first or second time.  I’d say this covers just about everyone else you may meet but not have a strong connection to.

 How Can You Meet Your Soulmate?

In my experience, I have come to these realizations:

You can’t plan a soulmate relationship.  No matter how many details a psychic tells you, you will never have all of the information and even if you did, right on up to the time you are destined to meet “the one”, the universe will find a way to knock you off balance just enough so that there is an element of surprise.  You have to also understand that even if the psychic accurately predicts a soulmate relationship down to the timing, either you or your soulmate may not be ready to acknowledge this.  You also must be very careful about how you proceed with this type of information and make sure that you are truly feeling the connection.  How strange it would be to finally meet your soulmate, start a relationship and get married only to realize that you really don’t have any feelings for them…yet. 

If it is destined to happen, soulmates will not miss their chance to meet.  Sometimes people tell me they are worried that they won’t recognize their soulmate or that they may have already met “the one” and missed the chance to make things happen.  Of course, there are always other things at work, but two immediate reasons for “missing the chance” to meet a soulmate are that the person wasn’t your soulmate in the first place or you were not meant to come together in this lifetime, for whatever reason.  If you are truly destined to meet your soulmate in this lifetime, the universe will invariably create a multitude of situations for you and your soulmate to get together and stay together.  It is your job to recognize the signs.  Do you wonder why you keep running into the same person over and over again?  Do you feel as though you have met this person before?  Do you feel a compelling need to get to know this person more?  Well, congratulations!  There is a good chance that you have met the person you were supposed to be with. 

Relax and be yourself.  I know.  This is cliche, but it is so true.  Another thing that often prevents soulmates from coming together is that their “humanness” gets in the way.  They want to be prettier, smarter, richer or cooler than what they think they already are.  Trust me: when you find your soulmate, it will be a small factor in determining whether or not he or she is “the one.”  If you keep repeatedly meeting this person, it would probably be a good idea, next time, to get some sort of communication happening.

For Goodness Sake TALK TO THEM!  Take every opportunity you can to get to know this person.  Remember that our “humanness” gets in the way of what our souls and what the universe wants for us.  If you are feeling this person, even if they may not be “the one”, they were most likely put into your life for a reason.  It can’t hurt to figure out what that reason is.

Stay Positive!  Again, this is a very cliche conclusion…to a very cliche article, but if you have ever heard of the power of positive thought, it’s completely true.  Positive energy draws positive energy.  It’s the way of the universe.  Keep yourself busy and occupied and don’t think about how you DON’T have a soulmate or how you HAVEN’T met them yet.  The universe will only delay your meeting them or even your progress in developing something deep with said soulmate because you’d still need to learn the lesson of TRUE positivity and patience.  I don’t mean saying you are positive and patient, I mean actually BEING these things.

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